Meet Harvard graduate, Laura Schifter~
Friday, September 4, 2020
Monday, July 20, 2020
Wednesday, May 20, 2020
Know that stress is normal.
Read this research to yourself before your big test to take advantage of stress:
"Sometimes in important situations, people notice that they have a faster heartbeat, sweaty palms, shortness of breath, butterflies in their stomach, and lots of energy running through their body. People usually think that this means that they are nervous, anxious, or worried. However, these feelings happen for all kinds of reasons, and it does not mean that we need to feel worried or nervous. For example, we feel this same way when we are excited about a surprise, when we are getting ready for a fun sports competition, or when we fall in love. So, feeling a faster heartbeat, for example, doesn't mean you will perform badly. Having these feelings could actually help you!This is because when people care about something, such as doing well on a test, our body's nervous system tells the body to release energy and deliver more oxygen to the brain. This helps you to stay alert and pay attention to the important thing that is going on in your life. Therefore, experiencing a faster heartbeat, heavy breathing, or sweaty palms could actually be a good thing. It is your body's way of pumping you full of energy and attention! It all depends on whether you choose to use this energy. ..."
Tuesday, May 19, 2020
Ways to break the stress cycle - everybody should have at least two!
Pressure and Release Techniques:
Cross and uncross your legs (at ankles) and arms (like a self-hug) for about 2 minutes. The pressure relieves stress.
Squeeze, press hands together, rub fingers, and interlace fingers for 2 minutes to relieve stress.
Push hands up on the underside of your desk for 3 seconds and release; repeat.
Lean on desk/table with your forearms, release the pressure; repeat.
Interlock thumb and forefinger of each hand, like a link, pull. Do this with each set of fingers.
Sitting, put your hands on your legs and press down. Let your arms go floppy. Take a deep breath.
Repeat: hands on legs, press, floppy, breath. Do this five times.
Or how about:
Keep a special worry stone/item in your pocket to hold on to and focus on.
Keep a special picture/quote on your binder to look at and focus on.
Look up breathing exercises.. Do yoga.
Visual learner - Look up autogenic relaxation
Take a walk; include up and down stairs or an incline.
For those of you whose evil twin perfectionist is getting in your way:
Divide the tasks at hand into small, manageable steps. Praise yourself, every little step of the way!
Compare yourself to......YOURSELF. Are you doing better this week than last week?
Let go of the perfectionist. Go for 90% or 80%. "The world will not end when you're not perfect."
Develop tolerance - for others....for yourself.
"Learn to see life in all its shades. Learn to think in gradations."
Catch yourself when you think something like, "I totally blew it." Guess what - it's rarely total. What part did you blow? What part did you do well?
Remember your senses..including balance and humor. Laugh, learn to let others laugh.
Put words to what you are afraid of. Share these with your guidance counselor.
Google "overcoming perfectionism." You are not the only one!